LOVE... WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

Oxford dictionary meaning of Love:AFFECTION 1 a strong feeling of deep afftection for something/someone, especially a member of your family or a friend. ROMANTIC 2 a strong feeling of affection for somebody that you are sexually attracted to. ENJOYMENT 3 the strong feeling of enjoyment that something gives you. SB/STH YOU LIKE 4 a person, a thing or an activity that you like very much. FRIENDLY NAME 5 a word used as a friendly way of addressing somebody. IN TENNIS 6 a score of zero...


Okay, the last explanation is not valid... It was just for laughs... There are several other meanings but it all boils down to one thing... Deep affection.
So, why does a word with so simple a meaning constitute a lot of trouble to the human race? We all go round and round looking for a deeper meaning to the word but the truth is, it can't be found because it just that... A simple word with a simple meaning...
A very good friend of mine asked me a question today with the intention of making me bother my beautiful head thinking about it... The hows and the whys... He succeeded because since he asked the question, it's all i can think about... I've answered, discarded the answers and then came up with other explanations and so forth but the truth is, i can't really answer his question... What was the question? Here it is... 'why is it so easy to fall in love but hard to stay in love?'
I thought and thought and thought about it but couldn't come up with an answer that really made sense. Decided to rest on this conclusion... It is in human nature to be fickle. I know the saying goes that 'there's no one as fickle as a fag' but the truth is, fags aren't the only ones who are fickle... All humans are... We decide we want something and the moment we get it, we decide we want something else then, walk away from the first one we got that we thought we really wanted... How's that for starters? There's also the dis-satisfaction with everything/everyone that's not the way we expect them to be... Too many expectations are usually detrimental to emotions... Even computers that can be programmed to one's desires tend to mess up after a while much less human beings who have their own thought process...
Another friend of mine told me once that she wished men came with operation manuals... I laughed the first time she said it but after much thought, i had to agree with her... Don't we all wish that there were windows to other people's souls so we can see the way their minds work? It'll be nice to know what the other is thinking as every point but like everything in life, there are pros and cons hence the necessity of lies... Truth is, we can not all handle the truth, the ugly truth. Sometimes we prefer to believe a lie than to hear the God's honest truth of a situation or one's self...
I read somewhere sometime ago (can't remember where, i read too much) that women spend their whole lives looking for 'Mr Perfect' but when they find him, they proceed to try to change him beyond recognition... I thought this was wrong but because of the kind of person i am who's never satisfied until 100% sure, i decided to investigate... Turned out that whoever wrote that was on the mark. Many women i know keep trying to change their men into an idea they've either read somewhere or imagined. It was a humbling discovery and i couldn't believe how right the person who wrote that was...
On the question of love, i see it happen everyday... People fall in and out of love on a daily basis. I always wondered how someone could say they were madly in love with another person today then 3yrs down the line, they decide they love someone else and cannot abide the one they were 'madly' in love with earlier... This is really hard for me to deal with because in my own case, i've only ever really been in love once in my life and almost 11years later, i still love him as much as i did the first time i realised i had fallen in love with him. Don't get me wrong, there are times when he drives me nuts but that has never made me fall out of love with him... In my theory, once you fall in love with a person or a thing, you'll always love them but that is my POV... Everyone's got theirs...
Over the years, truth be told, i've loved but have i been in love again? No... And that's not for lack of trying... I only stopped trying when i realised that one cannot make one's self fall in love, it happens naturally...
I believe there's a difference between 'loving' and 'being in love' with something or someone... For instance, i fell in love with Alicia Keys' music when i heard her first album 'songs in A minor' and i still am even now with her new Album 'Element of Freedom' and all the others in between... I love Ella Fitzgerald but i wouldn't always listen to her songs like i do Alicia Keys... This might not make sense to other people but it does to me...
Wherefore i say, go ye out and don't be afraid to fall in love and stay in love... It's better to fall in love with the real than the imagined... Don't fall in love with what someone represents, the image you have of them or an idea that came about in you head but do so for who the person is... That way, there are no surprises...
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