LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX... part 2

I like my steak well done... No rare, medium or the like... I'm Nigerian and here, nobody eats food that isn't properly cooked. We'd rather not eat if there's no option of cooking it properly. The only thing i'll eat raw is salad (it's supposed to be) and sushi. Everything else needs to be well done...


It may seem like i'm talking a lot of rubbish but like i said, i've done the legwork... I know our society has a problem with women talking boldly about these things but the truth is, i've had my fair share of sex with men... Different men (if that makes you conclude i'm a slut, good for you)... I don't think anyone would believe me if i say that at less than 3months to 30, i've only had sex with 2men...
First time i had sex in my life, it was a horrific experience... Complete and absolute pain... I figured i was better of not doing it again ever but then i met someone... We dated a while before venturing in the bedroom department. I mean, dating for about 6months or so with no sex. The guy was frustrated, i was afraid... When we finally did, it was..... Still painful but i wanted to please him and i asked him how but he said nothing... Maybe he was shy, maybe he had no idea... To this day, i don't know and i probably never will because i don't know where he is now...
My first kiss was amazing... I was quite young and he was my friend... I'd gone to cut my hair (i carried it very short at the time) and he walked me there... When we were leaving, he suddenly pulled me under the stairs and kissed me. Boy, oh boy... My knees turned to jelly and i had no idea why. I just knew that when he finally let me go, i couldn't stand so i sat on the last rung for a few minutes to get myself together... After i left my man much later, i went to him because we were still friends and i figured since he could kiss really good, he'll probably be better... Unfortunately, he was a guy who 'wrote short stories' and we never could have sex. How do you have sex with a guy who cums in your hand 10seconds after you've started touching him?
Then i met ID... This guy was amazing... He taught me almost everything i know about sex (though i still don't know enough, i've found) and the sex was amazing... He could go on forever. He had a lot of tricks up his sleeves and everytime was different. He was a selfless lover and i could've stayed with him if he didn't have to leave to work abroad... I don't do long-distance, sorry...
When he left, i wanted another like him. I was sorely disappointed. As a matter of fact, i'm still searching...
I know, i know, our memories makes the past look better than it really was but this is one past that didn't change because i had sex with him again early last year and it was still the same if not better... My mind didn't re-touch that memory...
When i met The Brit a year later, i'd almost given up on good sex. In my mind, men were selfish and just didn't care about giving back as much pleasure as they recieve but in his case, it was not so... Nope, not at all. He was so good that even now, if i'm horny and i'm not dating, i call him and vice versa... With him, i fulfilled almost every fantasy i have (except 2 that i'll write about someday soon)... On the beach, shower, hotel balcony, office, chair... Name it, we did it... He has a very active imagination that wouldn't hurt other men to have and when he feels pleasure, he lets you know it... And that for me, is the best ever...
One of the men i almost married was terrible... Just terrible... First time we did it, it was a short story. I thought that happened because he'd been chasing me a long time and we'd been dating about a month before we did it but when it happened again the next time, i asked what the problem was. He said there was no problem and he enjoyed it... What? I couldn't believe it!!! Told him if he wanted to be with me, he had to step up his game. I wasn't going to be with a man who kisses me and does nothing else except cum when he's getting a BJ and decides that was it. No way in hell was that happening and i told him this point blank. When he realised i was serious, he asked what he could do... I took my time to teach him everything i knew including endurance. Unfortunately, he decided to share my hard work with others including the girl i caught him in bed with when i came in early from a trip...
After that, it just went downhill... There was the guy who liked rimming (anal licking for those who don't know) and of course i wasn't going to do that... The one who keeps pushing my head to his penis for a blowjob even though the hair he had down there was longer/fuller than what i had on my head at the time and the proffesor (another who wanted to marry me) who couldn't even kiss well to save his life. Sex with him was worse than imaginable... I couldn't even begin to imagine what life with him will be like...
There was one who always complained that i 'do not fuck him properly'... Why should i? When all you do is lie there and say 'baby, pls come on top' without bothering to get me in the mood... A perfunctionary kiss, a grope and then he reaches for a condom. Tried several times to tell him how to get me on but he got upset so, i left him.
I had one whose touch was painful and he had a habit of hitting my butt or kicking it. Whatever catches his fancy at the time... He kisses good but has no idea what to do with my nipples. Intercourse is like an exercise to him and he sweats all over me. The most annoying part was having him pour lubricant all over my vagina like that'll make up for not being able to get the juices flowing. It probably did for him but it wasn't working for me at all and i told him this several times... Decided to do to him what i'd like done to me. Kiss him all over, explore but he didn't get the message and i started getting in a bad mood everytime he tries to have sex with me so, i left him too...
I have a habit of leaving, i know... It's just i have no patience. Tried it once and it ended up badly so, i decided patience was not my thing. I've been accused of changing boyfriends every 3months but what am i to do?
I shouldn't be the only one moaning or the like. It's annoying having sex with a man who just lies there and looks at you moving up and down and round and round. It's a bit frustrating. I've heard men complain about women who lie just there and wiggle a little. Isn't that where the term 'cold fish' comes from? A friend once told me that she enjoys sex more when the man she's with lets her know that she's pleasing him and no, that doesn't include ''baby, you're sweet''.
Unfortunately for men, we've all gotten so good at faking orgasms that they can no longer tell. Another friend told me a couple weeks ago that she's tired of faking it, she would like to have it for real and the truth is, so would i... I'm really tired of bad sex, really... I need a man who's not afraid to talk to me, accept me the way i am as i will he and to give me good sex... I like to be touched... I like to cuddle... I like to give and recieve pleasure and if i'm not getting that, there's no point really...
What can i say? If i have to have it, it has to be well done...
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