DATING DIARIES

I've always loved being single... The freedom to do whatever you please without worrying about anyone. It's only when you're single that it's possible to just pack up and fly to the Carribeans without notifying anyone, fuck whoever you please, do whatever you please. But like everything that has an upside, there's also a downside to being single. Valentine's day for instance... You want to hang out only to find that all your buddies are coupled up. Maybe you get asked out by a few people and then find yourself in a really bad date or as the third wheel. Both situations? Not good...
Being in a relationship brings with it a certain comfort that you don't get when single. Although, when one or both parties start getting too comfortable, it becomes a problem... I remember once dating a guy who only ever saw me in lounging clothes and my hair in a sleeping net. It never occured to me to dress up for him or anything like that because it didn't make any sense to do so when we're going nowhere. All we ever did was talk while drinking and then screw. That was all there was to it. After a while, it started bugging me and i wanted to break the pattern so, i mentioned we take the drinking out of bed and into the streets but he started dragging his feet so, i let it lie and ended things... I'm smart enough to know when something is going nowhere...
I'm so loving what i have at the moment... I had forgotten the extra something that came with being in a relationship that you cannot get when single and ship-hopping...
Romance... The essence of it is the life blood of a good and solid relationship. And love too... That just wraps things up nicely...
It isn't everyday that i meet a man who really understands me... Hell, i'm not sure i ever met one before but my brain is all fogged up at the moment... My need to know that pisses a lot of guys off, doesn't seem to faze him at all. I ask a question, he answers but because he's a man, he deflects some and i humour him by pretending not to notice.
I had told myself that i wouldn't blog so much about a man i'm seeing but then again, this blog is about being single and searching in Nigeria's own version of New York... Now, for all those who want to know what's been going on, this is for you...

FRIDAY 30th April:
I was standing outside my house with the mechanic who was checking out the extent of damage to my car that i'd banged up nicely the previous night... He drove up, stopped a distance away and i waved because i thought he couldn't see me... He later told me he stopped to get a better view. Hmm... He drove up, parked, got a big hug and we went in so i could brush my hair, get my bag and head out but we ended up sitting down in my house to talk for another 1hour before we finally went out. The plan was to get dinner, go out for drinks and retire somewhere private for the rest of the night. We did just that, minus the going out for drinks bit... I just wanted to be alone with him someplace quiet.
Dinner was great... Table for two, candlelight, rooftop restuarant at Mega Plaza (have no idea what the place is called) and lots of laughs...
Later that night at the quiet place for two, nerves set in... Spent a long time talking about it but at the end, we thought, what the hell and went for it. There are no words to describe what it was like...
SUNDAY 2nd May:
The plan was to go see a movie and we did just that... My brother had suggested Genesis Deluxe Cinemas located upstairs at the palms shopping mall and that was were we went. Decided to see Date Night and it was hilarious... That is, until the lights went off. PHCN had struck!!! Bloody generators weren't working and everyone was pissed... I couldn't help it. I screamed "I LOVE NIGERIA", burst out laughing and almost fell off my chair... Chocolate thought i was crazy but he also saw the humour in the whole incident. Went down to Newscafe to chill and from there, we went to Towers karaoke where i dazzled him with my very sexy voice... Hehehehehehe
WEDNESDAY 5th May:
He came to my house in the afternoon after skipping work earlier than he was supposed to and we were supposed to go bowling... That wasn't to be... The traffic was hellish and he didn't want to get back into it so soon after getting out of it. That was how we chilled in the house until the traffic cleared... Let's just say that by the time we got there and finished eating, the bowling arcade was closed so, we ended up at Newscafe again before i took a taxi home. Didn't want to stress him...

That's the story so far and i'm sure you all know it's been wonderfully edited. You can fill in the blank spots if you like and i won't be mad at all...

I've always loved being single but i'm also loving being in a proper relationship even more... Now, everything i want to do will be planned with someone and if i want to take off, we can do so together... It shouldn't be so bad... Afterall, every good thing comes in twos...
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